Today begins a week-long discussion of singing in church, featuring guest posts on my blog at Patheos. Catch the opening ceremony here and follow along if you wish.
Let the growth begin!
Today begins a week-long discussion of singing in church, featuring guest posts on my blog at Patheos. Catch the opening ceremony here and follow along if you wish.
Let the growth begin!
Stephen Covey’s wisdom touched a lot of lives. My series continues today answering the question, “Was the wisdom found in Covey’s 7 Habits biblical?” You can start with Habit 1 here.
The foundation for this habit lies in the simple acknowledgement that some pursuits are more important — or have more value to me — than others. Covey taught that we should be proactive, making a plan to put first things first (the first three habits working together). He illustrated the value of putting first things first with his now classic “Big Rocks” illustration:
The list of supporting Scripture could go on for — well, several volumes in fact. The very nature of God demands that He Himself has more value than all else. Thus being pleasing to Him intrinsically has the highest value possible in His universe.
We begin by determining exactly what we believe has the most value to us (Habit 1: Be proactive). We then devise a plan to get there (Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind). Covey recommends making both a personal and a family mission statement — both of which I and my family have done some years ago. Based on that mission, we then choose how we will spend our most critical resources by putting the most important things first (Habit 3: First things first).
Make your problems line up for you. ~ John C. Maxwell
In my life, those priorities look like this:
If it falls outside of those key priorities, it’s not likely to get much of my time. Sorry, I won’t be watching the summer Olympic games much.
I plan the year, each quarter, and every 40-days (borrowed that idea from John Maxwell) based on my mission statement. Each week, usually Sunday evening at 6 PM, I take an hour to reconnect with my priorities, pray, and then schedule the first things into my life remembering that if it doesn’t get scheduled if probably won’t get done.
I then review the plan with my wife — most weeks when I’m paying attention. Our family meetings each Thursday night complete the communication cycle to Build a Family We Can Be Proud Of provided we prepared well to make them productive times.
What helps have you put in place in your personal or family life to keep first things first? Thanks for sharing your ideas with a comment to share the growth.
My series continues on why the 7 Habits of the late Stephen Covey are Biblical. My tribute to him is here at Patheos.
Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it. (Matt. 7:24-27 ESV)
A simple habit, Covey’s second principle encourages us to know where we’re going before we start.
We could also phrase it simply: Be intentional.
The kids’ version is equally direct: Have a Plan.
Does the Bible speak to the wisdom of having a plan before we begin?
Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple. For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish…. So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple. (Luke 14:27-33)
Clearly Christ calls us to consider the cost of following before we begin. But it is the thought of eternity that awaits us that also fuels our journey forward as we seek a “heavenly country whose builder and make is God.” (Heb. 11:10) “For this light momentary affliction” we endure now seems nothing compared to the glory that awaits us at the end. (2 Cor. 4:17)
Let’s face it, most of us live our lives without much of a plan. We really don’t know where we’re going, so we’re often disappointed when we don’t reach it — wherever it was supposed to be. We simply let life happen. Not good.
Begin with the end in mind. Biblical. An easy one. It’s living it out that get’s challenging.
Do you have a plan that you or your family follows or do you tend to wing it and hope for the best? Share what you’ve learned with a comment here to help us all grow.
No doubt about it, Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits are popular. His recent passing reminded us all of their impact over the last several decades. My tribute at Patheos highlighted their impact on my own life. No doubt about it, the 7 Habits have been helpful.
But are they Biblical?
Stephen Covey himself claimed he drew inspiration from Scripture according to this article in the New York Times. I’ve certainly found that to be abundantly true. And yet I’ve often met resistance to my teaching Covey’s 7 Habits from well-meaning Christians who claim them to be man’s wisdom as opposed to God’s wisdom.
I’ve taught these principle many times to a wide range of audiences. I’ve incorporated them into my personal and family life. I believe they work because they come from the ultimate book of wisdom — the Bible.
I invite you to join in a series of posts that surveys Covey’s 7 Habits to see how biblical they really are.
In the space between stimulus and response, there lies our God-given responsibility to choose.
I like the kid’s version of this habit even better: ”You’re in charge of you.” By that, Stephen Covey did not mean that you are your own authority who submits to no one. Indeed, he often wrote at length about the need in all of us to acknowledge the claims of the divine. This habit does mean that you are responsible for the choices you make. All of them.
And you have more control over more choices than you’d like to admit.
You’re not in control of a lot of what happens to you. But you are in control of how you choose to respond to it all. And that’s abundantly biblical:
In Habit 1, Covey simply calls us to take ownership for our choices in life, to reject the victim label. It challenges us to quit making excuses and apply our creative energies to what is within our circle of influence and to let go of what is only in our circle of concern.
Covey gives this example in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families (p.35) of a time when a young man confided in him that he just didn’t love his wife anymore and asked what he could do:
“The feeling isn’t there anymore?” I inquired.
“That’s right,” he reaffirmed. “And we have three children we’re really concerned about. What do you suggest.”
“Love her,” I replied.
“I told you, the feeling isn’t there anymore.”
“You don’t understand. The feeling of love just isn’t there.”
“Then love her. If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.”
“But how do you love when you don’t love?”
“My friend, love is a verb. Love — the feeling — is a fruit of love the verb. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do this?
Stephen Covey adds “We do not have to love. We choose to love.”
Another intensely practical application of Habit 1 is Covey’s concept of the emotional bank account. In any relationship, we will, at some point, need to make “withdrawals.” Jesus himself said that because we live in a fallen world, “Offenses will come.” Thus we must choose to intentionally make positive deposits in our relationships before we need to make those withdrawals.
I’ve seen this principle played out most vividly as a school administrator. Whenever a new student first comes to the school and needs some disciplinary intervention at the start of the school year, I know I’ll likely have a challenging interaction with both the student and parents. I simply haven’t had an opportunity to make any positive deposits in the emotional bank account.
On the other hand, when those deposits have been made, freedom exists to truly engage in effective discipleship. I recall one time when a young lady’s father called me with concern over how an issue was being handled. When I spoke to him, however, he said simply, “Once I knew you were involved, I was fine.”
That level of trust took time to build and did not always come easily. It happened because I had authentically poured into those relationships with positive deposits before I needed to make a withdrawal. Because I had chosen to invest in the relationships ahead of time (Be proactive), I had earned the right to make a withdrawal of trust if needed.
I think of Nehemiah who asked for a significant withdrawal from the Babylonian king to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem. We don’t know all the details of how he did it, but clearly, as the king’s trustworthy cupbearer, Nehemiah had intentionally made deposits in that relationship. When the time came to make the ask, his credit was good.
In what relationships are you choosing to invest today? Do your choices show you’re aware of what you can change and not worried about what you can’t? Leave a comment to share the growth.
Today’s post is simply a call for guest posts..
My post at Patheos entitled “Why I Stopped Singing in Your Church” generated a bit of discussion — with excellent points made on all sides.
But today I added an update to seek a path forward that brings us together as believers and seeks solutions to worship frustrations. Check out the latest update and tell me what you think.
Would love to hear from my regular readers with a guest post submission.
Imagine devoting your life to trying to do something that could never be accomplished. Suppose your mission in life were to stop the sun from coming up each day. We can safely predict how that would work out for you. Every day. Leave you feeling pretty frustrated, I suspect. What if instead of becoming frustrated with your lack of progress at the impossible, you simply quit trying?
One reason you may be feeling frustrated is that you’re trying to do what can’t be done — at least not by you.
Maybe you feel like King Saul. That’s right, the bitter, dissilusioned, psychotic king of Israel back in the day who was — to put it mildly — a bit frustrated. Most readers will know the story well. After his own sinful behavior, Saul lost the promise of the throne when God removed it from his heirs and gave it to David, the whipper-snapper giant-killer. Saul was none too pleased. He devoted his entire existence to trying to kill David. But Jonathan, Saul’s son who got quite good at dodging spears himself, reveals something quite telling about Saul:
And he [Johnathan] said to him [David], “Do not fear, for the hand of Saul my father shall not find you. You shall be king over Israel, and I shall be next to you. Saul my father also knows this.” (1 Sam. 23:17 emphasis mine)
So Saul knew David would be the next king. It was a done deal in Saul’s mind. He confirms as much later. (1 Sam. 24:20) Nevertheless, Saul still focused every fiber of his being to trying to stop it from happening. He knew it was inevitable, but he devoted his life to stopping it. No wonder he became so frustrated. Apparently, envy knows no sanity.
Lest you think it’s only the unstable and paranoid-delusional that struggle with being frustrated trying to do what can’t be done, consider Solomon. Yep, that one — wisest guy on earth and all that. Turns out wise and smart are not synonyms after all. After Solomon married a thousand women and pursued their false gods, God promised to take most of the kingdom from him, as well, and give it to Jeroboam. Solomon didn’t take that news well either. Although he knew it was beyond his capacity to change the decree of God — being wise and all — he also devoted his life to seeing Jereboam killed. Oh, the frustrating irony considering Solomon’s father was David.
Desperate people do stupid things.
Think of Peter flailing away in the garden as Jesus is betrayed. Or Jonah hopping on a ship. Or any of a hundred sordid tales from the today’s headlines of spouses or parents who snapped and killed those closest to them.
But we are all desperate at times. We all get frustrated when we try to do what can’t be done. So we all do stupid things.
Sure, we might not hurl spears at our children, but we fire verbal missles that wound more deeply. We might not consult with witches to summon the spirit of a dead prophet as Saul later did, but we seek counsel from humanistic sources to deal with our frustration. We might not try to kill those that trigger the frustration — not physically anyways — but we harbor bitterness that oozes out of us whenever opportunity knocks. Maybe lately it’s been knocking often.
Why do we do these things? Could it be we’re feeling frustrated trying to do what can’t be done? There’s an endless supply of impossible things we might be attempting. Here are a few common ones that can frustrate us when we think it’s within our power to do them:
The list can be endless, but I suspect we all have a few we’re chasing. And we’re frustrated because of it.
Saul did manage to quit trying for a little while. It only happened when David confronted him. Maybe God’s using this post as that message for you. I don’t know. He’s sure using it that way with me.
Are you trying to do what you can’t be done? What seems to cause the most frustration in your own life? Leave a comment with a click here.
A great man died this week — Stephen Covey. His writing had tremendous influence on how I walked out my Christian faith — and he was a Mormon.
I invite you to read my heartfelt tribute to one of the most influential voices in my personal growth who I reference often.
My latest post at Patheos has generated a lot of discussion the last day or two. I thought I would share the link with you today and invite you to join in with your opinion. I value your input.
I reall do want to sing again!
Click here to see Why I’ve Stopped Singing in Your Church.
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Ever reach a place in life when you didn’t know what to do next? Maybe you had a few options, as if “two roads diverged in a yellow wood.” You may find yourself at those times asking, “So what do I do now?” I don’t know about you, but I wish I had one of those Magic 8-balls then to help me decide.
David reached one of those places that had a fork in the road — but he did have the 8-ball to help him decide. Well, not the actual 8-ball, of course. Don’t be silly. They didn’t have batteries then. And those things are made in China, not Israel.
But he did have seemingly magical rocks that God had given to help discern His will.
We find the story in 1 Samuel 23. David is running for his life from the envious, bitter, and psychotic King Saul. Who hasn’t had one of those days, right? Along the way, however, David pauses to do a good deed. He frees the inhabitants of Keilah from the perennial Israelite archenemy, the Philistines. While reveling in the victory, David gets some bad news. King Saul has heard of his success and is on the way to kill him.
David has a decision to make: 1) Run away. Again. or 2) Trust the grateful citizens of Keilah to defend him.
He asks God, “So what do I do now?”
David knew that Saul was plotting harm against him. And he said to Abiathar the priest, “Bring the ephod here.” Then said David, “O LORD, the God of Israel, your servant has surely heard that Saul seeks to come to Keilah, to destroy the city on my account. Will the men of Keilah surrender me into his hand? Will Saul come down, as your servant has heard? O LORD, the God of Israel, please tell your servant.” And the LORD said, “He will come down.” Then David said, “Will the men of Keilah surrender me and my men into the hand of Saul?” And the LORD said, “They will surrender you.” (1 Sam. 23:9-12)
God “spoke” to David most likely through the use of two stones called the Urim and Thummim that were kept in the priestly attire of the ephod. Most theologians speculate that the stones were used much like dice or the casting of lots. As Proverbs tells us, even such simple things as the roll of dice are firmly in God’s control:
The lot is cast into the lap, but its every decision is from the LORD. (Prov. 16:33)
David asks. God answers. Simple enough.
So if God could answer right away with a simple roll of the rocks, why does He often make us wait for the answer to that vexing question: “So what do I do now?”
Here’s a thought:
When God says, “Wait,” He isn’t trying to make us miserable. He doesn’t delay because he is temporarily out of supplies and needs to replenish His storehouse. The wait isn’t for His benefit; it’s for ours…. Big picture people understand that God uses waiting to prepare His people for the right answers to their prayers. ~ Doug Carter, Big Picture People (emphasis mine)
What if the reason God doesn’t quickly answer has more to do with us than with him? Could it be that we are not ready for His answer? Could he be testing us to ensure we do indeed emerge as gold on the other side of the refining fire?
The words of a song sung by Christian recording artist Steve Green seem a good fit here:
I don’t need to have the plan in hand, I don’t need to have the end in sight. All I need to do is follow You wherever You lead and do what you ask me to.
Do you also find it difficult to wait for God to show you the way? What have you learned through that process? Share a comment to help us all grow.
My previous two posts described how to enjoy an almost free day at Disney World in Orlando, Florida. Our family has gotten to know how Disney works pretty well over the years as you can see here. As a family game, we choose spots on the resort then try to list how many ways we could take to get to another destination of choice. It’s a strange life we lead. It’s not much. But it’s wonderful. Which makes it….
It does my heart good to think that Jimmy Stewart likely went to Walt Disney World at some point. I can see him and Andy Griffith chilling with Walt on a bench on Main Street, USA while Don Knotts tries his hand at the shooting arcade in Frontierland. Maybe they’d choose my favorite bench on the side street, just off Main Street. We stayed there late one night watching them clean — but I digress. Back to Disney.
Now on to an actual itinerary of an almost free day at Disney. Our most recent trip was only with me and my wife.
Here’s how we spent the almost free day although the constant rain kept us off the boats more than usual:
Parking $14; Coffee $3; Popcorn $4;Dinner $19 = $40
For $40 we enjoyed a romantic day for two at Disney World. It was too wet to ride much of anything in the parks anyways.
Cost to go in the park that day would have been:
Parking $14; Coffee $3; Popcorn $4;Dinner $19; Tickets $179 = At least $229, likely more with various purchases. Not a bad deal if you can get it.
Of course, getting there might be a challenge for some, but, hey — we live in Cleveland, Ohio. What excuse do you have?
If you have questions about WDW, just ask. We can probably answer them. Or we’ll just go back there and get the answer for you. That’s fine, too.
Would you spend a day like this at Walt Disney World instead of yet another round of miniature golf in Orlando? What do you think of our almost free day strategy. Leave a comment by clicking here.
My last post began sharing how to enjoy an almost free day at Walt Disney World in Orlando, Florida. If you missed it, visit here to get up to speed before pressing forward with how to get free rides on your almost free day at Walt Disney World.
Here’s how to get around on your almost free day at Disney:
Ok. So you won’t be riding on Dumbo or Space Mountain on this almost free day, but you can ride the fleet of trams, buses, boats, and monorails to get from place to place.
Now, I know you can technically get into one of the resort parking lots if you have meal reservations (or pretend like you do) or park at Downtown Disney and go elsewhere. I say forget the hassle and guilty conscience. Don’t be that cheap, Clark Griswold.
Spring for the $14 to park in the Magic Kingdom parking area, also called the Transportation and Ticket Center (TTC). It’s the hub of Disney transportation. At least you won’t be walking around with a semi-guilty conscience about “sneaking in.” The blue fairy would not be happy. Besides, the kids will enjoy the tram ride from your car to the TTC as the first almost free ride of the day. Once at the TTC, it’s time to choose.
You can reach just about any place on the resort by bus from the TTC. Disney runs a fleet of well over 300 buses running at any one time around the Disney World property. Buses are the best, and sometimes only, choice to visit various resorts such as The Animal Kingdom Lodge or the new Art of Animation Resort.
Simply wait at the stop for the destination you want. When the bus shows up and the courteous driver gives the all-clear, step on board and ride in comfort – all the while hearing various pitches about future stays or attractions. My kids always love to sit in the back of the bus. Come to think of it, I do too. If you get confused, just ask the drivers how to get to the next stop.
Boats are not the fastest way to travel, but for free, what did you expect? One boat captain told me that Disney has the fifth largest fleet of naval vessels in the world. Not sure if it’s true, but there are a lot of boats. Here are a two other boating options that might be a fit in your almost free day:
It would actually take you several days to try to cover just the ground that I’ve shared in these two posts. Even after 103 days, I havn’t been to all the Disney resorts. And to think it all started with a mouse.
Tomorrow, I’ll finish the week with some sample itineraries based on our own almost free days at Walt Disney World.
What memories do you have from taking rides on Disney transportation? What’s your favorite way to travel there? Share a comment. Share the magic.
Scribe SEO is the “easy button” for SEO optimization. I’ve used it for about 90 posts so far over the least few months. Michael Hyatt, author of Platform: Get Noticed in a Noisy World, swears by it and he has the traffic to support his claim. Here’s how it makes my SEO optimization easy. Plus, as an added bonus, I’ve tossed in a few other things worth knowing about it.
The basic concept behind using Scribe SEO is easy enough. Write your post. Enter your Title, Description, and Keywords in your meta-data. Then click “Analyze” in the Scribe Content Optimizer Box.
A few seconds later, you get your grade. It’s literally a percentage number (e.g. 78%), just like in school. Better yet, unlike most tests in school, it shows you which of twelve SEO hot spots need work to reach 100% optimization. See some screenshots here. The best part? The analysis then tells you how to optimize it – if you want to.
For example, sometimes it tells me to move my keyword(s) to the front of the title. If I like my title, I leave it. Otherwise, I rearrange a bit and more people will find my post. If my original title for this post had been “See How Easy It Is to Use Scribe SEO” the analysis might have suggested I move “Scribe SEO” to the front of the title. It’s always the bloggers call. Scribe SEO just makes recommendations.
Here’s how it helps me make optimization easy:
The only thing I’ve found about Scribe SEO that I don’t like is it doesn’t allow me to keep the Scribe Analysis Screen open while working on a post. I have to reopen the analysis with the review button each time rather than merely minimizing it. It takes seconds, I know. Compared to how long my Commodore 64 took to load one program, I suppose I shouldn’t complain too loudly.
By the way, this post got a 100% on the first try. Keywords: Scribe, SEO, and SEO optimization.
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